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EMPTY HEARTS WITH A HOPE.
Common happenings for Non resident
Indians, Deep breath during a movie shot at familiar
locations, rolling tears on listening to a song about
mother country, surfing sites to send gifts back home,
running to theatres for Indian movie or show, craziness
for Indian restaurants and longing for all things, Indian.
The heart obviously beats louder for Mera Bharat Mahaan
when there is a safe distance between the heart and
the hallowed soil of the homeland. These still remain
weekend leisure’s and comforts, which are engulfed by
the heavy work loaded weeks.
Back home, emotions run high in heart of parents. The
only things they are left with are the old memories
and all they can do is to silently shed tears looking
at pictures of birthdays, festivals, and weddings. They
struggle to rebuild their routine without children and
fill the vacuum with sounds of silence.
They are skeptic to share the problems with their children
due to lack of definite parameters to decide which problem
is substantial enough to “share” during the much-awaited
phone call every weekend from geographically distant
children. They just need to be assured about their kids'
well being. They convince themselves not to burden them
with their agonies.
The worst hit for them is empty-nest syndrome as their
children are miles away. It’s festive time and the city
is erupting all around the couple sitting lonely, but
not alone in their loneliness. They don’t want to stop
the tradition but as the day rolls by, they forget to
light even the customary candles. Now the special sweets
on festivals are prepared only when their children come.
They start adapting to the solitude but the voices and
memories of their loved ones always plays in silence
.The idea of going to stay with their children is vetoed
by most parents. It’s a completely different world and
lifestyle out there, is difficult to adjust. They enjoy
early days of vacation for a reason of being with their
children but they have vast circle of friends in India
and here they have their kids are swamped in their busy
routines. They still rely on their friends back home
who are their support and can act real fast in times
of need.
Then came the disastrous and devastating wave of terrorism
that put millions of parents back home in tremendous
tension. The worries were countless. The death or threat
of danger to the lives of near and dear ones or the
close relatives in whichever part of the world they
live irrespective of the geographical distance. There
was lot of anxiety every parent went through in every
part of the world. There are still many aged parents
who are crying within the four walls following the sad
demise of their children without anyone to console.
Today, a league of such parents has come together to
form Association. With their children comfortably settled
abroad, parents learn to cope with loneliness by banding
together in-groups and helping each other out. The concept
is catching on fast where the numbers of NRI parents
is ballooning. There is a void that still needs to be
filled as they realize that many of their children might
never return, except for brief vacations, so they have
found a bridge to connect their lonely islands of existence
through these associations.
They believe a day will come when they can actually
embrace their grandchildren, tell them delighted stories
whole night, prepare favorite meals for them full of
love, see them grow each day, live their childhood in
them, celebrate the festivals with them and be assured
that children rest in peace.
Down deep in their hearts still remains the hope that
their children will be back. Sparkling eyes wish for
their dreams to come true and they live with their children
under one roof. The slightest thoughts of being close
to them are euphoric but what finally matters the most
to them is the happiness and well being of their children.
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